For years, I didn’t have any self-confidence. On top of that, I was extremely insecure. I had low self-worth and was constantly self-doubting myself. The result – continually searching for validation from the outside world and never fully engaging in my pursuits. Take it from me; that’s not the type of life you want to live. When you constantly search for validation, you become a ping pong ball bouncing around continuously letting peoples’ opinions dictate your life.

In the process of developing self-confidence, you’ll disappoint a lot of people, be mistaken for arrogant, but it’s something that you’ll have to do if you want to reach the next level of success in your life and start manifesting some of your dreams. Maybe it’s starting a new endeavor, finally asking your crush out on a date, or changing up your style. Whatever it is, it’ll be hard to do without any confidence. Being reliant on the direction of others is an exhausting lifestyle to live and a tough cycle to break away from. But it’s possible to do it. So, don’t wait another day to start living with confidence. Today is the day that you start believing wholeheartedly in yourself and your capabilities.

I know, that’s easier said than done. Especially if confidence has eluded you in the past. So I’ve put together a small game plan to help you start living a more confident life. These small steps worked miracles for me, and I hope they’ll do the same thing for you.

Be Courageous

The title of this post is “Confidence is really all you need.” Well, until you have confidence, you must rely on courage. Right now, you’re standing at a bridge. On the other end of that bridge is a life with confidence. Your vehicle to get there is courage. Courage is simply being unsure or afraid to do something and moving ahead in the direction of your desired outcome despite the fear and uncertainty that you face.

To fully walk in confidence, you must essentially become a refined version of yourself. Don’t let this process intimidate you. It’s actually a pretty fun process.

F*ck Being Humble

Yes, I said f*ck being humble. Not in the sense of believing that you’re better than everyone, but stop thinking that you’re beneath everyone too. You need a mixture of humility and arrogance – or what I like to call being “Humbly Arrogant.” At times, to be humble is to have a low estimate of yourself, while arrogance is having a high assessment of yourself.

Again, this isn’t about treating people like peasants; it’s about knowing your worth. You should always strive to be a stand-up guy who’s willing to lend a helping hand and speak positivity to your peers. But there’s nothing wrong with looking in the mirror and saying, “I’m the Shit.” In fact, I encourage you to develop a brief motivational message that you utter to yourself while looking in the mirror every day. Don’t leave the house without performing this ritual.

Take Back Control of Your Life

People may mean well when they offer opinions. Still, if their opinions don’t align with your destination – you have to kindly say “no thank you” and proceed in the direction of your desired results. Your actions may upset a lot of people. But in the end, this is about your life and your happiness. Not theirs

Live Up To God’s Expectations – Not Humans

Not to sound preachy, but when God created you, he didn’t want you to live your life in the shadows being reliant on the opinions of others. He wanted you to reign supreme on this earth and conquer any obstacle that stands in your way. When you live your life as a doormat, it’s basically an insult to God because you’re not unlocking your true potential. You have potential beyond your greatest belief. Make an effort each day to believe in yourself a little more than you did the day before. Eventually, you’ll look up and see how far you’ve come and how much more confident you are than when you first started.

The journey to self-confidence is not easy, but it’s one well worth traveling. It’s normal to be insecure at times. After all, you are human. But insecurity and lacking confidence should not stop you from living your best life and going after what makes you happy.

Use Your Imagination To Determine Who You Want To Become

Get clear on the man you want to become. Every day going forward, make an effort to improve yourself by closely examining the aspects of your life that are causing you to have a low self-estimate of yourself. Grab a journal and write down all the areas you need improvement. Once you see what you need to work on, you’ll find it easier to develop a game plan to achieve your desired results.

Keep this in mind; time will continue to pass. In one month, you can either be enjoying the benefits of being an improved man or live with the agony of never starting the journey to develop confidence. The choice is yours, but I highly suggest you go with the former option. Stay diligent, be patient and give yourself grace. The journey to self-confidence is a marathon (a long one at that), not a sprint.

Have fun and stay safe. PEACE OUT!